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多溝通就少誤會--羅尚仁牧師  

4/9/2017

 
有一個不常下廚的先生,有一天心血來潮,想動手做太太最愛吃的“白斬雞”,到廚房去隨便選了一把刀,就開始切這隻雞,他連續剁了幾刀,就是沒切好。太太在旁邊看在眼裡,就譏笑他說:「嗨!好好的一隻雞,都被你剁成什麼樣了?我們可不是要包雞肉水餃啊!」先生聽了非常不高興,白了他一眼就說:「刀太鈍了,不能怪我技術不好!再說,死雞是不會抱怨的!雞都沒有抱怨,一聲都不吭,你在這裡說什麼呢?要不然你自己來試一試?是要當“死雞”還是“剁死雞”」太太不甘示弱的說:「我為這隻“雞”傷感,不但肉給你吃,還被你亂砍,真是殘忍。我為“你”你感到難過,你不但不會做事,還不謙虛,當別人講你的時候,你還不高興。我為這把“刀”叫屈,明明是你不會選刀,還嫌它不利、不好使;更糟糕的是它遇見一個壞主人,遇人不淑。」這樣的對話相信您並不陌生。我們從這個故事來學習幾個功課。
 
第一、要溝通,多溝通就少誤會。人與人之間沒有溝通,就常常會爭吵,夫妻也是如此。怎麼溝通呢?最重要的就是要能夠異地而處、設身處地、體會對方的心境。其實做丈夫的是好意,想要試著做白斬雞,討太太的歡心,這時候如果太太可以加以鼓勵,可能會非常圓滿,說不定造就一個大廚師。當我們常常以對方的立場,站在對方的角度,好像是穿別人的鞋一樣,我們就可以體會對方的處境與難處,如此以同理心來溝通就容易多了,至少減少許多誤會。
 
第二、要謙卑,多謙卑就少失敗。平常先生很少做菜,偶爾做一次菜,其實應該謙卑地來請教與學習,先聽聽太太太的話,聽聽專家的意見,如此可以做出合太太口味的大菜。相信太太是樂於指點的,所謂的:伸手不打笑臉人。謙卑的人,朋友自然就多,幫助也多,可以減少失敗。
 
第三、要寬容,多寬容就少傷害。要嚴以律己,寬以待人。要先把那嚴格的規律放在自己的身上,不要常常去要求別人也要能夠達到自己那嚴格地高標準。怎麼實踐寬容呢?特別當對方有一些缺失時,在話語上,要常常說造就人、安慰人、鼓勵人的話。要知道口舌是很厲害的,所謂的殺人不見血,就是說出傷人的話,讓他人的心在滴血。寬容的人,人也讓他,縱然有過犯,容易被人原諒,減少傷害。
 
親愛的弟兄姊妹,多溝通就少誤會,多謙卑就少失敗,多寬容就少傷害。讓我們一起學習彼此溝通、彼此謙卑、彼此寬容。當我們覺得缺乏能力的時候,我們可以向主耶穌基督祈求,求主賜下愛、賜下智慧、賜下大能。讓我們可以更多的彼此相愛,活出主耶穌基督那愛的生命,讓神的恩典充滿我們家庭、社會、國家,以致於眾人都把榮耀歸給神!

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