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引起共鳴的溝通     --      羅尚仁牧師

3/31/2019

 
​    小王是一個優秀的電腦程式設計師(Computer Programmer),無論學歷資歷以及在公司的表現都非常出色,人品與態度也讓人津津樂道,唯一可惜的就是還沒有對象,公司有意提拔他,也希望他早日成家、有個家庭會更穩定。小王心裡很急,可是一方面是害羞,一方面是不會溝通,以致於久久沒有對象、沒有約會、沒有動靜。終於有一天,公司來了一個新的實習生,不但美麗大方明艷動人而且知書達理,這是一個很匹配的對象。苗條淑女君子好逑,機不可失,但是,如何行動呢?

    小王立刻去請教傳道人,牧師告訴他:「直接坦誠向她表白,要有勇氣,因為女人喜歡看到有勇氣、有英雄氣概的男人,縱使失敗,也再接再厲不要放棄,相信,日久見人心。」可是我要說什麼?怎麼說?我不會溝通啊?這時師母加進來告訴他:「你要用她懂得語言來溝通。想想看,什麼會是你們共同的語言?」這位青年花了好幾個晚上、不眠不休的,終於得出對未來女友求愛的短信如下:「尊貴的女士,我一直在設計(Design)一個新的程式(Program),希望能到得到最好的產出結果(outcome),如果星期六有空,妳是否願意把自己儲存(store)在電影院裡我旁邊上的那個座位(slot)嗎?我預估(estimate)妳可能有別的約會,而且已經安排(schedule)在流程(program flow)裡面了,如果真是這樣,我將打岔interrupt一下,請妳將我的要求(request)重新定優先次序(reprioritize), 如果還是未能達到預期效果(predictive result),希望妳把它重新安排reschedule在下星期六。在整個檢測(examine)雙方資訊(data)過程中,無論測試結果(test result)如何,整個過程(process)是值得的,能夠與妳在一起是十分愉快的!我真誠的希望妳會接受這要求(request)。相信在最後的評估 (final review)一定不會讓妳失望的。我希望成為妳未來人生的共同設計師(co-designer)。」

    上面所說的電腦程式設計的術語,很技巧的使用在這特殊情境裡,每一個都具有雙重的意義,而且句句是相關語,不但風趣幽默,而且真誠的感情自然的從字裡行間表現出來。相信他的女朋友肯定拒絕不了這高超的智慧、求愛的挑戰及羅曼蒂克的誘惑。

    各位弟兄姊妹,傳福音不也是應該用這樣的智慧、這樣的策略、這樣的溝通嗎?我們也要用“引起共鳴的溝通”,講對方聽得懂的言語,用他所熟悉的言語環境背景,使他容易產生共鳴,同時也看出你的真心誠意,這就是所謂“對焦的語言”與“共鳴的溝通”。當我們花心思去研究策略、花去功夫研究方法、花精神去了解對方的需要,結果必然會使所說出來的,更能打動對方的心意。在整個過程中,我們可以看到眾人合作的團隊精神,每個人的恩賜不同、角度不一樣,經過大家同心合力、共襄盛舉、最後可以一起完成。

    親愛的弟兄姊妹,最重要的是人的智慧與能力都有限,但願你現在就謙卑地來到主耶穌施恩寶座前求祂。祂應許:「凡來到主耶穌面前的,祂一個也不丟棄。」但願主耶穌賜你智慧恩典與幸福美滿的人生,直到永永遠遠!讓我們把榮耀感謝歸給坐在寶座上的羔羊,愛我們的主耶穌基督!

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